So many people claim they have the best parents

So I don’t.

I just say I have good parents, because I have no idea who the best are.

I’m sorry for all those who couldn’t celebrate Father’s Day because they don’t have a dad or don’t have a good dad, but I celebrated. My dad works hard and deserves appreciation.  I’m lucky. I know my dad would do anything for his family.

To celebrate, my family went to North Border at Rochester Park, which is one of the best restaurants in Singapore… to say it’s the best might be an exaggeration, but it’s in the top three that I’ve been to.

 

I’m extremely unromantic.

I don’t believe in sacrificing a great deal for love. I believe you should find someone else instead of stressing out over “making it work” with someone whose personality clashes with yours, who isn’t accepted by most people you know, who lives far away, or who doesn’t share your goals. I believe you shouldn’t change your whole life or move 3000 miles just to be with one person you want to sleep with.I feel pretty grossed out when I see cutesy, sentimental shit like couples feeding each other or making out in a restaurant, and when I hear someone’s having a baby or getting married. I’m not into the idea of dropping everything and showing up at someone’s doorstep to declare your undying love for them. I’m not thrilled by the prospect of “growing old together.” Okay, you get the picture – I’m not that romantic.

But I love this song.

Can I just say I have never felt “menaced” or threatened by a man? I’m sorry for those who have, but I don’t think everyone has.

I’ve been annoyed by men, and I’ve felt uncomfortable around them, but I haven’t on any occasion thought I was in danger. I assume that most men, even if they did see an opportunity to hurt me and were tempted to do so, wouldn’t risk their jobs, relationships, and future.

Everyone reserves the right to offend everyone else, and thinks others shouldn’t complain when offended. But they themselves complain when they are offended.

Conservatives think you owe society something just because you’re here. Liberals think society owes you something just because you’re here.

 

It is a mistake to tell kids how smart and beautiful and talented and all-around-amazing they are. Compliments that are generalizations – “You’re great!” “You’re smart!” “You’re cool!” – make us feel good for a while, but do nothing for us in the long run. What we need is to be complimented on specific efforts and achievements so that we can repeat them.

False and undeserved praise, or too much praise (especially non-specific praise) has the potential to cause a lot of damage. When people hear how awesome they are over and over again, they think they can rely on their inherent awesomeness to get them through life. But then they might crash and burn when they realize they’re not that awesome, or they’re not going to be that awesome if they don’t put a lot of hard work into it. There comes a day when people who were told how great they were as children realize that they aren’t as great as they might have seemed, and fear the day when others notice it, too.

Doing specific things that are good will do more to make us feel good than being told how good we are. And when we believe in ourselves, based on actual evidence of our strengths and capabilities, we are likely to try to achieve more and more.

Hate and “Hate Hate”

I hate overrated people and things, as in I want them to stop being overrated and seen for the average people/things they are.

I hate Jimmy Fallon, in the sense that he annoys me. Gosh, doesn’t his voice make him sound like he’s holding back laughter every time he talks? I don’t want him dead, though. He has a young child.

There are some people I hate hate, as in I really wouldn’t care if they were dead, or maybe I’d even be happy if they were dead. Like, you know, terrorists.

Sometimes two different kinds of hatred come together. I think Obama is overrated and I think anyone who still thinks he’s cool needs a reality check, and I also think he’s a crappy person and I’d be indifferent to his death. Same with quite a few other people in politics.

But I’d be sad if, for example, a famous musician with little talent were to die; I just wish their average-ness would be universally acknowledged.

Telling it like it is

Some people are respected for telling it like it is. I understand that it’s not, but shouldn’t it be the norm?

I mean, really, if someone’s a control freak, or a liar, or unreliable, that needs to be addressed. Who cares if someone’s feelings get hurt? You know what? Sometimes you need to be made to feel bad about something so that you change.

I’m sick of hearing stuff said behind people’s backs that supposedly can’t be said to their faces. Oh, just go ahead and tell them.  If Susan heard that you said to Natalie, “Susan’s a control freak and it’s really damaging to our (club, organization, team, business, whatever)” and asked you about it, would you deny it? No, you would be relieved the truth had finally come out and say “Yeah, Susan. You are really controlling and you need to tone it down a bit, because it’s bringing down our team.” Right?

You can be diplomatic about it, too. If you need to confront someone you can say, for example, “Hey, Natalie, I appreciate your offer to help with such-and-such. But you’ve been unreliable lately. You need to step it up because you have me questioning your commitment.”

Gosh. I don’t get what’s so hard about it.

Hey, what the?

Saw this on tumblr.

Worrying about popularity is for mediocre people. Popular people can still be awesome! Like… Taylor Swift. Lol.

There will always be drama, wherever you go, whether it’s happening online or in person. And there will be drama because people love drama. They love arguing, or they love petty gossip, or they love bringing someone down to make themselves look better, or they love playing the victim.

Most people don’t grow up, they just age.

Many say they don’t get involved in other people’s drama, but few actually escape it.

I’ve resigned myself to all of this.